Just De

Just De
Just De in Manhattan

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

D: Divorce. I didn't even see this one coming!!!

I am in shock!

I just found out that NBA baller Charlie Bell and his wife Kenya are getting divorced!!! This really hit me hard because these are people who are around my age and two people that I actually went to college with. Yeah, I know I shouldn't be shocked when two celebrities split, but this is different. Charlie Bell was one on the beloved Flintstones from the Michigan State basketball team. He's one of us, one of the regular folk, always such a nice guy. And Kenya, was a girl from the D. Smart, beautiful and down to earth. Or at least she seemed to be back in the day. They were as close as the perfect couple as you can get in the world of celebrity. Or at least I thought.

While I didn't know Charlie and Kenya personally, I do remember bumping into them on the campus of Michigan State University. They seemed so happy each time I saw them together. And on the few occasions that I saw Charlie out at a campus party or out with his boys, no matter how many girls tried to turn his head, it was clear that his heart was already spoken for. That's why I can't believe that their fairy tale romance is over.

Then again, lots of marriages fail. Some of my closest friends have had failed marriages. Some of my family members had failed marriages. Even my parents marriage, after 31 years, sadly failed. It's a sobering stat, but it's an unfortunate truth.

In recent months, several celebrity couples who seemed like they would be together forever have called it quits. Heidi Klum and Seal; Kobe Bryant and Vanessa Laine; Jennie Garth and Peter Facinelli; Arnold Schwarzeneggar and Maria Shriver; Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher; Katy Perry and Russell Brand. And who can forget about Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries. While we all knew the Kardashian nuptials were probably doomed, no one would have envisioned the sham would have lasted only 72 days.

The common theme in all of these unions is each couple gave the image of unbridled bliss. And I am sure they were all very happy at the time. But unfortunately if people get together for the wrong reasons, no matter how happy they appear on the red carpet, in the media or even on Facebook, they will not last. The more couples try to convince everyone of their happiness, the more unhappy and unstable the relationship usually is. Being happy doesn't require a lot of convincing, it just is. People can only keep up an image for so long and when the honeymoon phase is over, usually the marriage will be too.

I sometimes get frustrated because I am woman of a certain age and unmarried, but maybe that's not such a bad thing. In this day and age, maybe being single and waiting for the right situation is the way to go. But at the end of the day, I still believe in marriage! And I always will.


Mark in the ATL said...

As a person who has been married for 20 years, I can honestly say that marriage is something you have to work at each and every day. You cannot take one another for granted or the bond will start to unravel. I have also learned that you have to admire your mates positive qualities and accept their faults because both parties will posses both. We also agreed early on in our marriage that whatever the obstacle, we will work through it together and that divorce is never the answer. I can honestly say that I love my wife more each day and I am proud to be her husband, lover, and friend. Love you cousin!

just de said...

Awe. That's beautiful Cousin. Hopefully my beautiful cousin hasn't snagged the last good guy! Love you too!!!!