tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8939216198499223063.post5944620275563486434..comments2023-06-10T10:59:24.508-04:00Comments on Choosing Happiness: Okay, this blog was born out of dramajust dehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08961644009636716163noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8939216198499223063.post-80896603295076355132010-10-14T21:19:23.220-04:002010-10-14T21:19:23.220-04:00Awe Shannan. Still so sweet.
Girl, thanks for th...Awe Shannan. Still so sweet. <br /><br />Girl, thanks for the comment and reading my blog. But I do want to clear up a couple things. My ex is not a cheater. A coward, maybe. But he wasn't a cheater. I really think he just put me in a place in his mind a long time ago and now that he has his life a little more in order, he doesn't need me and has to make sure I don't interfere. Don't think I am defending him either, but technically he didn't cheat. We do live in different cities and to be honest, if I lived in a different city than Battle Creek, I may have met someone too. lol.<br /><br />In regards to his girlfriend, I don't blame her at all for this. I don't know her. And to be honest with you, I feel a little sorry for her. Because if they are engaged that quickly, then chances are she doesn't really know him. Again not my business, I am mean I am the scorned ex girlfriend, but just my opinion. The thing that hurts about all of this is I was a good girlfriend, I was a good friend. No I was not perfect, but I was there for him. Through a lot. <br /><br />So thanks for reading my blog. I promise, this won't always read like the life of Debbie Downer. But I hope that it will be entertaining, thought-provoking and helpful to others.just dehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08961644009636716163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8939216198499223063.post-48828355773502707292010-10-14T17:41:29.491-04:002010-10-14T17:41:29.491-04:00Okay, first of all (and I know you stated that you...Okay, first of all (and I know you stated that you weren't going to, but...) Don't fight for this idiot! He cheated on you once(@ least) and would do it again. Too many women fight for a men that does not deserve them. Women even tend to blame the girl he is cheating with instead of holding the slime bag accountable (ever seen an episode of Cheaters?). If he is chasing after her and you are chasing after him, no one is chasing after you. Instead, you need to find happiness within yourself, then instead of chasing someone, find the one that runs toward you. Knowing you, I know that you deserve that. Men make women messy. As natural caregivers, we automatically start trying to show a man how wonderful we are and what great partners we would make, often at our own expense. Focus on your writing and your career. Don't worry about a guy...any guy. If you were to jump back in now, you would just repeat the pattern you had because you would just be replacing your ex-not learning from the experience, realizing what you do and don't want from a relationship (and yourself) and finding someone that shares your values and beliefs. Go after your dreams. You are never too old to make them come true and your experiences will lend to your writing. I don't know if you remember the audition I posted but it was called "Happiness is a Choice." Every day we make a choice to be happy or miserable. To look at our life and see what is wrong or what is right. I am glad that you chose to move back to New York. You are choosing to not let this man control your life. I am sure you will be wildly successful Good luck!Shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14330899081362077129noreply@blogger.com